Changing the conversation to Mental Fitness.
Mental fitness is the missing piece elite athletes need to become truly great.
You have the talent. Now it's time to give them the tools.
Their dreams start when they watch their heroes. They want to be just like them. And you get to witness that journey.
They invite you into their lives — not just theirs, but their families', their communities', their teams', and the kids they grew up playing with. But at some point, your role shifts. Now it’s your job to help them get to the next level.
You know the challenges ahead. You can help them through injuries, the choices they have to make, the ups and the downs. But then one day they lose it…..
Their confidence is gone and you can see it in their eyes, the way they play the game and their body language. The “IT” you saw and they felt is hidden. They fear its gone and never to come back again.
You Know a Few Things That Might Help... But It’s Getting Harder
The longer it goes on, the harder it is to pull them out of it. And it’s painful — for them and for you.
Why is it so hard to regain confidence?
"It's the thing that almost every athlete I work with comes and asks me to help them find self confidence. Though you can't buy it on Amazon. You have to get it from within."
What Most Athletes Get Wrong About Confidence
"I need my coach to have confidence in me in order for me to have self confidence."
That’s not self confidence. That’s borrowed confidence.
Even if your coach doesn’t believe in you, you still have to go out, perform, and execute at your highest level.
So why does self-confidence feel so elusive?
Because most athletes believe it’s just an emotion.
But here’s the truth: Self-confidence is both an emotion and a skill.
Too many athletes are stuck in a toxic cycle:
Myth: You’re only good enough if you’re perfect.
Trap: The way to fix it is to punish yourself and hold onto every mistake.
These myths create two false identities that dominate sports culture:
Sometimes They Can Work Through It. Sometimes They Can’t.
And when they can’t, you’re left unsure what to say or do. But here's what helps:
They need tools. They need a system. They need someone trained to guide them.
We believe in a client-centered approach, tailoring our coaching to your unique goals and aspirations. Whether you're seeking personal growth, career advancement, improved relationships, or enhanced well-being, our team is here to support and empower you every step of the way. Together, we'll inspire positive change and help you become the best version of yourself.
We help your athletes build the mental systems they need to perform at their best — on and off the field.
It all starts with a team presentation — for your athletes or your advisory group.
You know what you did to get it back. But for some players it is a little more difficult.
It can all change with a conversation about mental fitness. Book a time with us to show you how we can help you implement a mental fitness training program for your athletes.
We will help you develop systems and a shared language for you to use with your athletes and help them get to the next level.
With us, when their dreams are on the line, no one will be hoping for great. They will have the tools they need to be confident that they can be great.
How do you stay focused?
Distractions happen—in games, in practice.
That’s not the problem.
The problem is the meaning we give them.
We think:
– I don’t care.
– Something’s wrong with me.
Stress and distractions show up.
The mistake? Trying to eliminate them.
When we can’t, we blame ourselves.
An athlete told me his coach said before a state championship game:
“Don’t focus on the fact that the whole state is against us.”
Guess where their focus went?
Avoidance turned into fixation—on something they couldn’t control.
It didn’t work.
Distractions pull us in when we’re bored, uncomfortable, or off.
We search for the one thought to make it all go away.
That’s avoidance in disguise.
Refocus instead.
✔ Do a mental reset. It’s competition—it’s safe to set thoughts aside.
✔ Use imagery. Visualize putting the distraction away.
✔ Use the 90-second rule. If you can’t take action in 90 seconds to fix it—let it go.
✔ Accept that distractions are human.
✔ Reboot. Use your five senses to reconnect with the moment.
✔ Write down how you’ll refocus. Then practice it, no matter the circumstances.
Let’s change the conversation about mental fitness.
Skill 1 - Comfortable with Uncomfortable
Simplifying and Understanding Your Amazingly Imperfect Brain
The Next Play - Normalizing, Neutralizing the The Pain Brain
Skill 2 - Create A Buzz - Be You
Defining Your Values, Skills, Strengths and Areas for Growth
Skill 3 Getting Better Every Day - Expanding Your Skills by Competing Against Your Yesterday
Creating Habits
Measuring Growth
Making Small Changes for Dramatic Results
Skill 4 Learning From Failure
Developing a 3 Step Process for Learning from Failure - Intent, Execution Adjustment
Skill 5 Letting Go - Self Forgiveness
Developing a 3 Step Process for Moving on.
ACT - Accept Decide Turn
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